Struck By Loneliness? Follow These Tips To Feel Better
A very famous line from author John Donne is:
“No man is an island, entire of itself, every man is a piece of the continent.”
Ponder on that for a moment. It is very important for us in our everyday life to interact with our fellow earthlings, most importantly humans. We surround ourselves with people in the form of family, friends, acquaintances, co-workers and so on throughout our lives. In order to have a healthy mental state, it is necessary for a person to have an adequate amount of social interaction. This has been clarified by a wide variety of scientists across many disciplines and has been phrased in many ways. The core idea remains the same: Man is a social animal. So, where does loneliness figure in the scheme of things and how does one cope with it?
The reasons for loneliness vary, based on geographical location and a person’s state of mind. Sometimes, a person is living in a town or city with a very low population due to the nature of work. Other times, there are a lot of people in populous cities who interact less with others and, thus, feel lonely. Though the best way to cope with loneliness is to seek out counseling, there are a few hacks you can include in your life. Feel free to use them or to share with a loved one who might be going through the tough phase of life called loneliness.
- Shut Facebook down for a few days: Facebook is a great place, but it is just a play of light and colour on a screen. Watching others’ lives and forming opinions about them is not the best way to deal with loneliness. Instead, it is better to spend some quality time with real friends and not just online “friends”.
- Help other people: Whatever your talents and strengths are, you will find that there is someone with a corresponding gap in the same area. Reach out to such people and help them relieve their stress. A burden shared is a burden halved. By helping others, you can quickly form meaningful relationships that would combat the feelings of loneliness effectively.
- Cultivate the attitude of gratitude: At the end of every day, literally with a pen and a paper, count your blessings. Write down the things in your life that you are thankful for. By feeling grateful, you enter a relaxed state of mind and, thus, are more approachable for people.
- Enjoy being alone: For one or two hours every day, cultivate a routine where you can “hang out” with yourself. Pursue or explore a hobby such as music and art. Once you understand the trick of being alone, you might even enjoy it to the extent that you would not like any company!
Of course, if all else fails, consult an expert who can tackle the problem with their experience. Loneliness is not much fun and, in extreme cases, is the cause of suicide for many people across the world every day. We hope that you have taken away enough information from this read to battle this demon. For more information, please consult your nearest mental health practitioner or a life counsellor.