Umlingisi ongumdidiyeli u-Mindy Kaling ungene ku-Instagram ukuze abelane ngenothi elithandekayo lokubonga ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa lwama-44 lapho eveze khona ukuthi ubengumqemane kunabo bonke. Unikeze izingane zakhe udumo - indodakazi u-Katherine “Kit” Swati, 5, nendodana yakhe uSpencer Avu, 2, ngokuba ngcono kwakhe. Abelana ngezithombe zendodakazi yakhe nendodana, bedonsa izikhwama zabo zetroli ngesikhathi umndeni uya eholidini, u-Mindy wabhala eceleni, “Bheka ngiyazi ngokucacile ukuthi ngithanda izinto ezibonakalayo kodwa isipho esingcono kakhulu sosuku lokuzalwa kimi, impilo yami yonke, yilaba bafana ababili”.

Eveza ukuthi “akazange abe umuntu wezingane”, umdidiyeli wethi Never Have I Ever wabelana ngokuthi kwakungemva kokushona kukamama wakhe, wayecace bha, efuna abantwana. “Angikaze ngibe umuntu “oyingane.” Lapho umama wami edlula, kwavele kwangicindezela: Bengifuna izingane eziqiniseke kakhulu. Ngiyabheja ukuthi abanye benu bangalandisa”.

UMindy wengeze ngokuthi manje ufuna ukuba nguye ongcono kakhulu ezinganeni zakhe. "Manje ngizama nje ukuba khona kubo (kunzima kimi! Anginasineke!), Ukuzimisela kunoma yini (futhi kunzima kimi, angiyena u-whimsical!), futhi uhlale unempilo kulaba bafana ababili (FUTHI kanzima! Ngifuna nje ukudla ama-cheesesteaks konke ukudla phambi kwe-TV) kuze kube yilapho ngiwuhlaka lwamathambo oludala olumpunga bafana 'nomama'.

Ekhuluma ngempilo yakhe ethuthukisiwe, u-Mindy wabelane, "Udokotela wami wangitshela ukuthi kulo nyaka bengingumqemane kunabo bonke eminyakeni edlule. Leso yisipho esihle kakhulu, akunjalo? Ngivame ukuba nokukhathazeka okusezingeni eliphansi, ngakho ngizothatha umzuzu owodwa ngosuku lwami lokuzalwa ukuze ngivume ukuthi ngijabule. Ndoda, kukhona ukukhuphuka nokukhuphuka okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yami yokuzalwa manje kubukeka sengathi ngiyabonga kakhulu!! (Futhi mhlawumbe ngizozithengela leso sikhwama se-Dior semfashini esifana nobhontshisi wezinso).”

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Izingane zingaba nomthelela omuhle empilweni yengqondo yomzali, kodwa ubudlelwano phakathi kobuzali nempilo engokwengqondo buyinkimbinkimbi futhi bunezici eziningi. “Nakuba ukukhulisa izingane kungaletha injabulo nokwaneliseka, kuphinde kuza nezingcindezi nezinselele ezahlukahlukene ezingase zibe nomthelela empilweni yengqondo,” uDkt Mazher Ali - Umxhumanisi, Wengqondo, Izibhedlela ze-CARE, Banjara Hills, Hyderabad utshele indianexpress.com.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba khona kwezingane kungakhuthaza injabulo nempilo engokwengqondo. “Ukunakekela nokukhulisa ingane kunganikeza umuzwa wenjongo, incazelo, nokwaneliseka. Ukusebenzisana komzali nengane, njengokudlala, ukuhleka, nokusondelana, kungathuthukisa imizwelo eyakhayo futhi kube nomthelela enhlalakahleni yonke yengqondo. Ukwengeza, uthando olungenamibandela nothando oluhlanganyelwe phakathi kwabazali nezingane lunganikeza ukusekela ngokomzwelo nomuzwa wokuxhumana, okungaba nomthelela omuhle enhlalakahleni yengqondo. Impilo yengqondo, ”Echaza.

Nokho, kubalulekile ukuvuma ukuthi ukuba umzali kungase kubangele futhi kucindezele. “Ukungalali kahle, ingcindezi yezezimali, kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo eqhubekayo yokukhulisa ingane kungadala izinselele ezingase zibe nomthelela empilweni yengqondo yomzali.” Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali babeke phambili ukuzinakekela, bafune ukusekelwa ezingosini zabo zokuxhumana noma ochwepheshe lapho kudingeka, futhi balondoloze ibhalansi enempilo yokuphila komsebenzi ukuze baqinisekise inhlalakahle yabo, ”kwengeza uDkt Ali.

Umthelela wezingane empilweni yengqondo yomzali ungahluka kuye ngezici ezihlukahlukene, okuhlanganisa izimo zomuntu siqu, izinhlelo zokusekela, nezindlela zomuntu ngamunye zokubhekana nesimo. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nomzali ngokulindela okungokoqobo futhi ubeke ukuzinakekela kuqala ukuze ulondoloze impilo enhle engokwengqondo kuyilapho ukhulisa izingane.